12 February, 2009
OUCH! I HAVE A BRUISED EGO...
i am going to vent a little now... and i would appreciate your views on this... maybe i am over reacting:
our weekly knit\crochet group decided to make a group collaborative afghan. so members turned in squares that would be combined in strips and then the strips connected to make the afghan.
well, when the time came to connect the squares into strips, most of the folks, for whatever reason, didn't volunteer ... so out of a seven strip afghan... i ended up putting together 5 of the 7 strips. i asked whether the joining colors were important... i asked if there were special conditions to how i should do this... i was told that anything was fine...
so the squares were supposed to be 10 x 10...but, and this is mine included, they were ALL different sizes... so there was a certain amount of extra rows put here and there to make the strips equal width... so i decided to forgo the grid square aspect... the individual squares are in the strips ... but not in the "grid formation"... practically impossible in a timely manner.
i used colors... if you look at my work, you know i am into color...
i thought the effect was like an "arty throw" ... not bad, i was fairly pleased with it.
so last week, i gave the strips to the lady who is going to connect the strips and bind to make the afghan complete.
i showed pics (and here and here) of the strips to a couple of other members (didnt want to get the strips out because afghan recipient was there), and got very favorable comments. One member even said that while she was sorry that i had ended up having to do all of that; that she was glad because she liked my style of crochet.
last night when i asked how the strips were coming, i was told that most of it would have to be undone... that the squares "were getting lost ... they didn't match up"... my work was ""appreciated", but that it was "just impossible" like it was ... and the kicker, "it wont look anything like what you did." ---she and another member decided this.
WOW! i have to admit, i took it a little hard. i vented to the ever patient Sugar Daddy, who consoled me.
It was really a good thing that i went to a "heavy metal" rock concert (Slipknot) after leaving the meeting... i got to work out some frustration by headbanging...lol
i do not believe that i will be volunteering to help out in that way again... i dont mind doing the individual piece... but i certainly wouldnt take on the piecing part again... i spent over 15 hours on this project, time that i could have spent on my own works... i am still a little bitter about that!
i decided to sleep on it before blogging about it... to make sure that i was looking at it objectively.
i dont think that the comments were meant to hurt my feelings... maybe it is just a difference in vision and style?
what do you think? i would appreciate different perspectives on this... something similar happen to you?